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Acts of Anger

Anger means annoyance, which is demonstrated in various ways. Though anger is an emotion that a person feels within himself, most often he outwardly expresses it some way. This is called an act of anger, i.e., the way he/she acted when angered. There is a trigger and a resultant action in all cases of anger. The different actions are enumerated below:

  • Aggression
  • In this scenario, the annoyance is extreme and leads to a physical action, which could be towards oneself or towards someone else. Self-inflicted physical harm is done when a person is so angry with himself, and is unable to control his emotions, which leads him to cause physical injury to himself. For example, suicidal attempts are often a result of anger at oneself and the state of one’s life.

    A physical act occurs when a person, unable to stop himself, causes physical harm to another person with whom he is angry. All acts of aggression are termed physical acts can involve the entire range of violence including murder, hitting and pinching.

    Aggression can be sporadic or continuous. In a one-off case, the aggression is sporadic, while when done constantly, it becomes continuous.

  • Abuse
  • Abuse can be physical or verbal. When angered, a person can resort to verbal abuse wherein he/she uses derogatory terms towards another person. Cruelty and mistreatment can be done using words itself, without any physical aggression. The mother-in-law who often berates her daughter-in-law in public is a demonstration of verbal abuse.

    Physical abuse happens when a particular derogatory behaviour is being done on a constant basis by a particular person and, usually, towards a particular person (or set of persons). For example, a husband can be abusive towards his wife by continuously hitting her or a paedophile is continuously abusing children (not a particular child, but many children).

  • Manipulation
  • Manipulation can be both positive and negative. Manipulation is manoeuvring a situation or person to act in a manner as desired. When done with a negative intention, it is usually propelled through annoyance with a situation:

    Richard was angry at being thrown out of the pub by the security personnel. In anger and retaliation, he manipulated the pub owner to dismiss the security personnel.

  • Subjugation
  • Another act done in anger is subjugation, which has been described as conquer, defeat, or suppression. This act incurs the wrath of the anger as it pertains to putting down another person. It is an extreme action that results in much harm (physical or non-physical) to another person.

    The Roman Emperors subjugated the enemy and suppressed their community.

  • Hostility
  • Yet another demonstration of anger is hostility by a person to another. Hostility is demonstrated through ‘unfriendliness with anger being shown’. A child is hostile to his friend who does not share toys; or, a teenager is hostile towards his friend’s girlfriend; countries are hostile towards one another.

Sometimes, different acts of anger may be done individually or together. For example, aggression can be coupled with abuse wherein both are used together. Similarly, manipulation can be used to subjugate people. The stronger the anger, the more severe is the act. At times, anger is so deeply rooted that it does not let the person think even for a second and the person lashes out.

Thus, anger has various facets and can be viewed in many ways. However, the common denominator is the same annoyance.