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Anger and its Nuances

Anger is an emotion; and emotions are feelings. Hence, anger is a feeling that a person experiences. However, what type of a feeling is it? Anger is perceived as a negative feeling as it brings forth a pessimistic attitude towards a person, place, or thing. It manifests feelings of frustration and irritation, and overtakes all sensibilities.

Anger is often thought to be the same as frustration; but, this is not so. While anger represents annoyance with something, frustration depicts an inability to do something. Frustration can lead to anger and vice versa. Hence, though interlinked, there are not synonyms.

Though it is an emotion, anger is often used as a way to demonstrate other feelings such as unhappiness, incompetency, inadequacy, failure, and so on. If an individual finds any aspect of his life incomplete, and he is unable to do anything about it, it leads to multiple feelings that can all be combined under one head ‘anger’!

Anger can be an internal emotion or can be manifest through outward behaviour. Sometimes, we feel angry, withhold this sentiment within ourselves, and do not express it. However, in other cases, the anger may be expressed through inappropriate behaviour, action, or words towards self or others.

A person feels angry either towards himself or towards others:

Roger’s inability to pass his exams made him angry with himself. However, a few days later Roger was angry with his sister, as she would not let him study. He shouted at her in retaliation.

Anger never happens on its own there is a distinct cause and effect. There exists a reason for the anger. It is a feeling that is resultant from some form of injustice or grievance. This annoyance arises when a person thinks (or knows) that he has been wronged.

Amongst all emotions that human beings feel, anger is one of the harshest as it is unpleasant and can lead to ill effects for self and others. It is one of the strongest emotions and one of the most difficult to surmount. When anger hits with full force, it is akin to a ball of fire the fury and rage that can be demonstrated will take human life.

As an emotion, anger can involve a single person or multiple people. In the first case, it is a case of anger towards oneself while in the second it is anger directed at someone else who becomes the victim. However, whichever form anger takes, it is a negative reaction and does more harm and benefit.

When used as a noun, anger is a strong feeling of resentment, which can provoke a person to act in a derogatory or harmful way. It is self-inflicted in this case as the person is angry. When referred to as a verb, anger is something that people do they irritate and infuriate others by their actions (which may nor may not be harmful) but are considered annoying by others. For example, Jonathan refuses to clean his room, which makes his mother very angry. Therefore, Jonathan annoys his mother by not resorting to cleanliness or doing as guided.

It is evident that anger has many levels and gradations (nuances) and is experienced at any time; maybe a few times day as well. It ranges from minute levels of irritation (anger at the buzzing bee) to great levels of rage (murdering someone).

Anger is experienced by all living beings as they can ‘feel’. The angry young man that lost his job is similar to the angry bee whose beehive was burnt; and they are similar to the angry lion that did not catch his prey!